Apple pie is everyday life. Or a boundary of no expectation.

What if we all your disappointments could disappear? This doesn’t have to be a “what if…“

Client: When I ask my husband for his opinion, he responds with little interest or reaction. Is there something I’m lacking?　It is said that the other person is a mirror of yourself.

Me: You don’t have to blame yourself. It could be that you just don’t know how to communicate. First of all, you have to understand the type of person he is. Then you’ll be able to say, 「Oh well, it’s the same as usual」 and you won’t be so angry.

Client: But if I want to say something, can I say it?

Me: Well, I don’t know. If you say what you want to say, the bell will ring for the fighting to begin. In anger management, it is said that if you savor anger for six seconds, it will disappear. To be a loving person, you have to train yourself.

Client: Do I expect too much from my partner?

Me: It’s easier when you let go of expectations.

Client: How do I let go of my expectations?

Me: I don’t expect much from others. I’m always trying to exceed other people’s expectations, so I think to myself that my own ideas are more interesting than those of others. That’s why I don’t expect anything from them anymore.

Client: Oh! Excellent! If you always exceed others’ expectations, they won’t expect anything from you. That’s a quote right there!

Me: The other day my mother was coming to my house and I suddenly thought of baking an apple pie, so I started making it half an hour before she arrived. I had already cooked the apple compote the day before. When she arrived, the apple pie was ready to bake in 10 minutes. My mother looked at me with surprise: 「I’ve never baked an apple pie before! “ I’ve never cooked for her before! So I gave her the freshly made pie and she was very happy with it.

Client: It’s great that you had a simmering apple compote!

Me: That’s how it is, I just try to always do more than the other person expects.

Client: You are like an angel! I have an acquaintance called Angel, who is really like an angel and always does wonderful things that exceed our expectations. I’ll be an Angel too!

To lower your expectations of others is to raise your chances of being pleasantly surprised. If you raise your expectations of what others expect of you. What you expect of them because less important.

That’s my Apple-pie life! Every day is like apple pie!