The art of enticing
As communication software and hardware, technology develops it’s easy to forget about the importance of interpersonal skills especially as we come to the end of the pandemic. It’s time to rediscover the art of enticing new relationships in the real world.
I recently received some lovely feedback from an online English teacher. I’m sure that the teacher also has given great feedback to other students, though. And she shared my ONE DAY ONE UNIT concept and said she would recommend it to other students. It has only been two months since we met, but it seems she has become a fan of mine even though I am a student.
Surprised by the feedback, my client asked. “Why do your lessons get that kind of feedback?”
I prepare for the lesson so that it goes smoothly, and in free conversation, I try to say something that will leave an impression on the teacher. Then, in the next lesson, the teacher can ask me, “What happened about that?” and the conversation continues into the next lesson.
As we talked about this, I remembered. “What can you do to get people to want to see you a second time?” I was told by the president of the apparel company I used to work for. The day before I was to meet the charismatic hairdresser who would later become my mentor, the president accidentally came to see me. It was good timing.
The president told me, “There are two key points: first, talk about yourself; second, talk about what you are good at that the person in front of you is not so good at.” Thanks to this advice, I could speak without being nervous at the first meeting and connect with my mentor, and my dream came true. Maybe it was that time that stuck in my mind and I naturally started leaving an impression on the other person from the very first meeting.
I’m not the only one, but there are a few other people who have been impacted by a first meeting, and these people foreshadow meeting a second time like so: first, connect with them on Facebook or Instagram, send them a message, and wonder what they can do with the person then they offer them something they might be interested in, and so on.
In the 1995 film ”Before Sunrise”, there were still no smartphones. so the way to organize the next reunion is romantic. They were in front of the train door and with a very vague promise they say goodbye: “Well, we’ll meet again here, six months from now”. But they could meet again nine years later, partly because it’s a film and because he wrote a book about the unforgettable day with her.
What connects people is the other person's thoughts and the impulse to want to meet again, which may fulfill the second meeting. I would like to have many such moments during various encounters, not only with lovers.