What is needed for the future?
Matthew McConaughey said, “I’m looking into now what my leadership role is. I do think I have some things to teach and share. What is my category in my next chapter of life that I’m going into now?”
“You said that coaching is just listening. That’s true! I felt a sense of clarity after just talking to you. Then I started to do things I hadn’t tried before.”
We were just having a dialogue, not coaching. As the owner of his shop, I think he probably doesn’t get a lot of opportunities to talk about his inner thoughts and feelings or to get feedback from others. I just listened to him and gave him feedback on what I felt. I was glad that my listening the way I listen was useful to him.
At 1D1U Camp, I’m doing a 20-minute live session on Zoom called 「Hitomi’s Room」. By talking, they can clear their minds, heal their hearts, realize what their frustrations are, realize their underlying thoughts, and have time to decide what they need for the future. If we don’t have this time, time will pass us by in a fog of unknown emotions.
Last week, I went to my parents’ house for my birthday. I only go to my parents’ house once a month, so my nieces say to me 「Hitomi, I have something I want you to listen to! 「 That day, my mother, my sister, my 12-year-old niece, my 9-year-old niece and I were sitting around the table and my 9-year-old niece was talking to her friends about her problems. I thought, 「This is a great system, my family has an environment where they can talk about their feelings with adults around them! I am sure that the child who said the harsh words had a reason for doing so. I listened to her neutrally and told her it was not her fault.
I noticed that with the Covid-19 pandemic, we are losing more and more opportunities to talk to other people. To have time to talk is very important because when one talks, one becomes aware of one’s ideas, one is healed and motivated by the approval of others. I am convinced that in this time of isolation, what is most needed is to create a place where people can speak from the bottom of their hearts.